Friday, November 19, 2010

Wow.....having one one of those days when I just wanna scream right out loud! My hubby will be home soon and I'll be mking a pizza run ALONE. This should help.
What an early start to the morning. The hubby's truck isn't working so we all had to get up this morning and take him to work. He had to be there by 6 am....Naps all around later!
Well maybe not for me. I'll be leaving the boys at the sitter and going to the doctor. I am growing tired of all the dr.'s appts lately. Seems we all have to go for some reason. And with 6 people in the family, that's a lot of appointments! Since the car accident the kids and I all have to go to the chiropractor 3 times a week now! Like I said, That is a LOT of dr's appts!
We got the kids report cards just the other day. They are both doing great. They are both on the honor roll! I'm so proud of them!
Isaac is still having real trouble reading. I am sure he is dyslexic. We will find out soon. It doesn't seem soon enough tho. He doesn't go for his eval. until January! It was scheduled sooner but we had to reschedule it. I don't even remember why now.
Tommy is doing great in school. It is hard to remember not to compare them to where other kids are at the same age. There is no such thing as the average child and I need to stop measuring my kids against and imaginary creature! One of the reasons they go to the school they go to is so they can work and develop at their own pace...so they aren't forced into the mold of the "average child". Isaac may not really learn to read until he is much older...especially if he is dyslexic. But that is ok with me. Once he learns to read school will get easier. Right now he hates it mostly because they want him to read and he feels like he can't so he doesn't even want to try. I think it's more a self confidence issue than anything else.
It is time to get them ready for the sitter. gotta go!

Sunday, October 31, 2010

I feel like screaming

OMGsh! What a day this has been so far.
This will be the kids first year trick or treating. We have never celebrated Halloween before. Personally, I don't wanna get it started but this was not my choice.
We picked today to get them to clean their room, when all they can think about is dressing up and eating candy. This ha been going on for a few hours now. I know their room was a mess but good grief.
They can not get along with each other today. They keep screaming and fighting. It's been a crappy day. I can't quit shaking. It's even hard to type. I just feel like crying. Tommy is off somewhere on his motorcycle. I'm beginning to hate that thing. It's like a mistress with wheels. It seems that when he isn't at work he is either riding his bike or working on it. And I'm left in here alone with 4 little screamers.
It's not that I don't love my family. I DO. I really DO. I just think I need to take a little time for myself away from the kids. A little time away with Tommy would be even better. But I just don't see that happening. First I'd have to drag him away from his bike and then I'd have to actually have someone who is willing to keep 4 kids at one time. :(
Put the frustration together with being sick all the time and there you have my life. I swear I feel like I am just falling apart. It seems such a young age to be feeling this way. The latest thing is a bum pancreas.Six months ago, I spent 7 days in the hospital because of my gall bladder, my pancreas and my liver. They removed my gall bladder and lots of stones in the ducts in there and that calmed down my liver and pancreas. I thought it was all better but suddenly my pancreas is inflamed again. I just want it to normal again. Apparently that isn't ever gonna happen.
So there. I've whined.
There is another thing that is really bothering me. I guess I could just make this whole post a rant and tell you about that too.
It is Samantha. A few months ago, at her last check up, the Dr. said she was developmentally delayed. I knew this already since we already have 3 other kids. He said that he thinks she is showing the early signs of a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) also known as an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). Isaac, our oldest, has a PDD called Asperger's Syndrome. This is probably what is going on with Sam. She seems to be a bit more behind than he was at this age. She still isn't walking and she only says Dada. Nothing else. Just Dada. She's just under 16 months old. At first I wasn't sure I agreed with the doc. But as time goes on and I see no developmental advancement, I think he may be right. This is heartbreaking. I know what a hard time Isaac has and I hate to think of how things will be for Sam. There is also a bit of selfishness in there. I'm also worried about me. I have a hard time handling what I already have on my plate. I'm not sure how I can handle more. I know people will say that God will not put more on you than you can bear. Unfortunately I know that the scripture actually says that we will not be TEMPTED above what we are able to bear but with the TEMPTATION, we will also be given a way of escape. Those are two very different statements. Don't get me wrong, I don't believe that God is piling things on just to see how much it takes to break me. It isn't that at all. I just know that even in scripture God's people were several times in situations that proved too much for them. In these situations we are to call out to God, to rely on His strength and not our own. We have to do this because it really is more than we are able to handle so he has to handle it for us. It is awesome to know that He can and will take care of us in hard situations. The hard thing is to trust him to do it. The creatures we are, it is hard to put the ball in any one's court but our own. I am trying to give my kids to the Lord a little more each day. I know that He can handle all the things that I can't.
In Christ,
Shirley

Friday, October 8, 2010

my beautiful little monster

Wow. Today was a very long and trying day. Little Tommy has got me at my wits end. I'm not even sure what to do with him anymore. I feel so helpless because it seems that nothing I do seems to work.
He laughs at me when I try to discipline him. He screams and throws, kicks and punches things. He is just generally hateful. He is MEAN to his brothers and even to his little sister. She is only 15 months old and he screams at her just like he does at his brothers.
He can be the sweetest little guy you have ever met. But only when he chooses to be. The trouble is, he rarely chooses to be.
So what is his problem you may ask?
He has ADHD, Bi-polar disorder and ODD.
I'm sure you are familiar with ADHD and maybe even bipolar disorder but it seems that no one has any idea what ODD is. ODD stands for Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Say that out loud and slowly to yourself. Oppositional Defiant Disorder. It is just as scary and hard to deal with as it sounds like it would be. As a matter of fact I have no idea how to deal with it. No idea at all! So if any of you out there have a child with similar issues, please comment. I would love to hear from you!

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Went walking tonight with a great friend of mine. Her name is Toy. I had a good time. It was nice to get out of the house away from the noise and the never ending mess.
I think we will be doing it on a regular basis...which will be good for my mind and my body!
When I got home, all the kids were in bed. Of course the are not all asleep. That would be too easy! But in bed is better than out.
I have been praying alot about my photog business. I know all businesses are slow in the beginning. But I sure wish mine would be the exception to the rule. I'm not sure what to do to speed things up. All I know to do is pray. So I will keep doing that!
The boys are not on any meds right now. After only 2 tries I am not sure I want to do this again. I felt so guilty. The side effects were obvious and awful for them both. I know we should keep trying and after a short break, we might. but just not right now.
I am so sleepy. I think it is bed time!
I'm tired. I'd like to sleep all day. I did that, as much as possible, yesterday. I woke up feeling the same. Even tho sleep is what I want...I don't think it is what I need.
I'd like to have a pill. A magic one that makes everything seem perfect even when i know it isn't. Wouldn't it be great to have an Alice in Wonderland cake or drink that made you fit what ever the situation. Wouldn't it be great just to fit?

Saturday, August 21, 2010

both the boys are on new medicine. This is Tommy's second kind and Isaac's first. It is Adderol. I don;t think that this is the right one for either of them. Both are complaining of not feeling well at all. Tommy says he feels like he's shaking. He also said that he feels like jumping in a volcano. I'm not sure what that means. He cries at nothing and lays on the couch all day. I hate this. He's laying here screaming at me because he doesn't want to watch what is on tv right now. I'm supposed to call my friend April but I can't because it is so loud in here there is no way I could hear her or she could hear me. urg!
My dad gave Isaac a guitar. It is the perfect size for him and he carries it around the house. He strums it like crazy. It makes him feel cool. :) Mr. Tony will be giving him guitar lessons at school this year. I'm excited about that. I know that Isaac is too.
I have been cleared by my cardiologist to have my long awaited hysterectomy. YAY! I never thought I'd be glad to have surgery. am really looking forward to this. Maybe I can take natural hormone replacement supplements and finally get all straightened out.
Poor Isaac feels horrible. Stupid medicine. He is very vocal about how rotten he feels. I feels sorry for him. And Tommy seems t be extra sensitive to sounds...especially the sound of little Jacob's voice. But hey, I think we are all sensitive to the little screamer, lol.
Well. I could write about their fighting ans fussing all day...but I think I will sign off for now.

Until next time,
Shirley

Friday, August 6, 2010

He knows! He knows what we need. I just hope He agrees that we need it now! Lol!
OMGsh!!!
♫Crazy,♫ My children are driving me CRAZY!♫
Tommy is losing his temper and screaming and hitting walls and stuff like that. It's kind of scary to think what this could progress into as he gets older and this disorder gets harder to handle. I can hear it in my head right now. All the voices saying, "If that were my kid he wouldn't be acting like that, I would bust his butt and show him who is boss." and blah blah blah blah. I know the speech all too well. Mine use to be one of those voices. I use to know a lot more about parenting until I actually became a parent. Now I find myself at a loss all the time. I just don't know what to do sometimes. That makes me feel helpless. I wonder if other parents feel that way too. I wonder if there is another mother sitting somewhere right now with the same fears as mine, with the same concerns for her children as I have for mine. I wonder if she feels as helpless as I do when my boys go into meltdown. I wish I could talk to her, encourage her and be encouraged by her. I wish I could get little bits of advice on how to deal with all the challenges that come along with special needs kids. I wish there was a manual that we could pour over together. I wish there was someone who understands; Someone without judgement to pass and criticism to give.
I am thankful for the new meds and I hope they work at the low doses so that we don't have to keep tweaking it again and again. I hope that when Isaac gets his meds they work well for him too. I'm sot sure how much more of all this I can handle. I know that God knows how much I can take and He won't let it go past that amount. I am thankful for that knowledge. I think I may go right over the edge if I didn't know how He works.
I know that He said I would never be tempted above what I could bear. but He promised that with the temptation would come a way out. I wonder where that way leads. I wonder if it leads to that mother, that friend I long for. I wonder if maybe He is that parent. The parent of a troubled child. The parent that has a broken heart for His children as I have for mine. I wonder if maybe I already have the manual and just need Him to help me understand it. I wonder if I could talk to Him just like I could talk to another parent, maybe as I have a cup of coffee in the early morning when I am all alone in the quiet. I wonder if I could start the day out on a positive note instead of with the dread of another day full of that helpless feeling that always seems to come. I wonder....

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Wow. What a day. We had 3 appointments today within 2 1/2 hours. It was kinda crazy. I hope to never have to do it like that again.

Isaac and Tommy had therapy and then Tommy saw the psychiatrist for the first time.

When we first started to wonder if something was wrong, I started reading everything I could get my hands on. I came to the conclusion that I thought he had ADHD and ODD. After going to therapy for a while and now seeing the psychiatrist, it turns out, I was right. He has both. I wish I had been wrong. I hope that catching it and treating it early will make a big difference to him. Especially with the ODD. ODD stands for oppositional defiant disorder. It is just as scary as it sounds. If you haven't heard of it, you should look it up.

He has been put on two different meds. I hope they work for him without causing any side effects. I feel like he really needs this. I feel like he may only get worse without it. I hope that we also have good result from the meds that I know they will be putting Isaac on. If you are reading this, I sure hope you will pray for all of us. It would be great if you would let me know you are praying. I would be encouraged by that.

Monday, August 2, 2010

My Monday was a pretty good one! I got a tiny bit of housework done...although a normal person probably couldn't tell I'd done anything at all. I made lasagna (from the freezer) and garlic cheese bread (from scratch). For the latter, I used the bread machine. The recipe was a good one but the bread didn't get done in the allotted amount of time and I had to finish it up in the oven. That means that the inside was really soft and kinda moist (lots of cheese) and the outside was as hard as a rock! Tommy swore it was good tho.
Our friend, Adam came over tonight. He's always good company. He's quite funny. Tommy likes him a lot. I'm glad of that. My sweet hubby needs more friends. He kinda keeps to himself. I'm glad they have become friends. We all watched New Moon. It's pretty much a chick flick but the watched it anyway...and liked it. Good guys!
The kids behaved themselves while he was here, for the most part. Sam was very vocal and just would not be quiet. She's such a talkative little thing. She still refuses to say Mama tho.
Isaac and little Tommy have therapy tomorrow afternoon. I know they need to go but it is not something I am looking forward to. I haven't seen any results yet, good or bad. I hope to see some soon. Tommy goes to his first visit with the psychiatrist this Thursday. I'm a bit nervous about that. I'm not sure what I'm gonna hear from her. I'm not sure about meds and stuff like that. I know he needs something to change before school starts again. Part of me is looking forward to trying meds. the rest of me is worried that it will change him too much. I have seen kids who are either on too much medicine or on the wrong kind altogether. I don't want him to be a little zombie boy. But I don't know how much more I can take of things the way they are right now. I'm praying that they find the right med. and the right dose on the first thing they try. That isn't too much to ask is it?

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Attention Parents and Grandparents!!!

CutiesNBeauties is announcing thier very 1st pageant- A Fairy Tale Dream! The location is TBA :)
*ENTRY FEE: $100 includes EVERYTHING!
*SIBLING DISCOUNT:$175 for 2
*DEADLINE FOR DEPOSITS: Sept 1, Deadline for full payment is Sept 15th, any time after to enter will be $115. door entries IS LIMITED and fee will be $125!
this pageant is semi glitz, which means no make-up on 0-4 yrs light age appropriate on 5 and up. Glitz dress are allowed! No flippers, no hairpieces, or tanning! Sorry:(

-Deadline to enter is Sept. 1st

*ATTIRE: Sunday's Best or Glitz Pageant dress
Princess OOC(can be any princess u choose)
Can be any cartoon character for the boys!
*AGE GROUPS:
(for girls) 0-12 months
1-2 yrs
3-4 yrs.
5-7 yrs
8-10 yrs
11-13 yrs
(boys)0-12 months
1-2 yrs
3-4 yrs
*AWARDS:
-Grand supreme 0-4: 7" tiara, sash, & 32" trophy
5-12: 8" tiara, sash, & 3ft trophy
THERE IS POSSIBLE CASH AWARDS FOR THE GRAND SUPREMES, WITH MINIMUM OF 10 ENTRIES!!!!!!!!

-Queen(each age division): 5" tiara, sash, & 18" trophy
-Princess(each age division): 3" tiara, sash, & 16" trophy
-OOC(overall 0-4, 5-12yrs): 3" tiara, sash, and 12" trophy
-Photogenic: awards TBA
-prettiest hair:sash
-pretties smile: sash
-pretties eyes: sash
-most beautiful: sash
-best personality: sash
-each contestant WILL get a participation trophy!!!

~awards are subject to change, only if I can find bigger and better ones:)
for more info email us at cutiesNbeauties@rocketmail.com
Wow! What a day! It is amazing how quickly God Chooses to work sometimes. You can be sitting there minding your own business and suddenly He drops a blessing right in your lap!
In few months I will be on my way to Kentucky to shoot my first pageant! I am so excited! Things seem to be moving right along in this photography career What a truly awesome God we serve! I know that nothing good that happens to me would be possible without Him!
I'm bit nervous about the job since it is my first of it's kind, but I know that there will be more to come if i do well. And I know that with His help I can do very well, better than anyone could have anticipated!! I haven't told my sweetie yet. He is asleep and I haven't been to bed yet. Since it is 4 in the morning and I have to be up at 5:30, I guess there will be no sleep for me tonight! That's ok. I am so Excited, I can't wait to tell him when he gets up!
YAY God and Yay me!

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Today was a great day until it was time to come home. The kids and I went to our friend Kodi's house where the kids played and kodi and I talked wedding plans and photography poses. It was great! We had pizza and COLD water. There's nothing better than the company of a great friend, hot pizza and a cold drink. Then When Josh (kodi's husband) got home from work we went to the park and had so much fun. The kids played and played while we sat in the shade of a nearby tree. It was nice and relaxing. We occasionally made our way to the playground to give the kids a push on the swings or take a trip down the slides. We then played in the river...or the kids did. But we got wet anyway. As we were leaving I slipped in the mud and hurt my BAD knee and my BAD back again. I couldn't even drive myself home (thanks for the ride, Kodi). Yay me. Thank God for narcotics.

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Loving my time alone with the hubby... Even if I am just taking him to the doctor. Man we need a real date. I feel like a kid when we are alone together!!!

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Mondays

Well. I survived Monday. Phew! For a while there I wasn't sure I would make it. Tuesday may not be any better but at least it doesn't share the awful expectations of a Monday.
On Mondays I expect;
To lose my keys when I'm running late
The dog to eat my last $20
The kids to try to kill each other
The car to run out of gas
Traffic to be a twisted knot in the middle of the intersection
Birds to target the car and drop poo on it simultaneously
The movie I want to be checked out of the red box
To forget to bring money for parking...again
The computer to crash in the middle of a blog post
and many other things....
But I never expect to miss him quite as much as I always do.
For me, Mondays are only Mondays because he has to go back to work after being mine all weekend.
I hate Mondays.

Sunday, June 27, 2010

This day seems to have flown by! We have had a calm and lazy day at home. Well, as calm and lazy as you could have with three rambunctious boys and a baby girl who is discovering everything around her as if it is the first time she has seen it.
I am reading a book. You may have heard of it. It is called My Sister's Keeper. It is a good book but for some reason I keep having to take short breaks from it. I just get restless and a little bored. But it is by no means a boring read. I assume it's just that I have been easily distracted for the last few days.
I have done NO house work for the last few days. This is a no no because even when it is "clean" it is still very lived in. It is always a bit messy looking. But today my dh and I shared the job of cleaning the living room. If my back didn't hurt when I stand for too long, we would do the dishes together.. Yes, I do have a dishwasher. The only problem is that is still sitting in the basement patiently waiting to be installed. I, on the other hand, am not so patiently waiting. I nag about it every time it crosses my mind. My poor hubby. He really does work so hard to support our family. So I do understand his procrastination to tackle my "honey do" list.
We had home made pizza tonight for supper. I am so scatter brained that I forgot some of the more important ingredients for the pizzas. I was supposed to be making spinach chicken Alfredo pizza for me and the hubby and pepperoni pizza for the boys and Sammie. Guess what I forgot? I forgot the chicken and the pepperoni. so the kids had just plain cheese pizza and my sweetie and I had spinach Alfredo pizza. they were both good, even without the meat!
And that is pretty much all that happened on my lazy Sunday at home with my family.
I'll be signing off for now.
Until next time,
Shirley
OMGsh! I stayed up way too late last night. I am SO not ready to start this day! I want to go back to sleep but 3 of the kids and the dog have different plans for me. My dh is still in bed. Wish I was.
Barney is on TV. Jacob just loves him. Little Tommy tolerates him in hopes of getting to choose the next program.
Isaac is still asleep. Sometime in the night he moved to the couch. I don't know what the pull is to sleep on the couch but all the boys always want to do it. I makes me want to get rid of their beds and just make their room a play room. But that will never happen. I like our alone time after the kids go to bed too much. They go to bed pretty early, around 7 or 8.
Samantha is awake but is still in bed amusing herself. I can't believe hoe big she is getting. in a few weeks she will be a year old. It seems such a short time ago that we brought her home from the hospital. This little fragile girl who slept all the time. I miss that but I love the new personality that she is developing. I may not be fortunate enough to say that in about 15 years!
She is beginning to not be so happy amusing herself so I better sign off now.

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Who Am I - Casting Crowns

my sane life

I needed a place to write just for the sake of writing. Thus a blog is born. I hope that I can write a thing or two that will be of some interest or at least amusing for someone out there.

Today was just an ordinary day. Nothing special is going on around here. Nothing exciting. That is just the way I like it. The boys were acting like boys all day long and Sam is teething. She seems to be in misery. Poor thing.
Tommy has been home with me all day. It's the best kind of day. I love it when he is home with me and I miss him when he is not. This coming February we will have been married for 12 years. It doesn't seem like it's been that long. In my head I still feel like I'm a teenager with an exciting boyfriend. It seems odd to me that I am all grown up. I'm 33 and the mother of four.
I love my life and I could never imagine it any other way.